When two people go on a first date, they’re behaving in a way that will facilitate their future together. They want to be lovers, to have joy, to offer support and pleasure to their partner, and they want to have fun. During the courting and honeymoon period, our behaviors primarily come from our conscious minds, putting us on our best behavior. As long as we don’t revert to thinking during this time, we will be operating with our hands on the wheel.
Unfortunately, in the world in which we live, there’s so much demand on us that thinking is inevitable. Later in a relationship, downloaded negative programming in the subconscious begins to manifest, and it alters the character of the relationship. The joy dims as each partner compromises in order to accommodate the negative behavior that their partner never revealed during the honeymoon phase. As you start compromising, you ask yourself where your limit lies. In many cases, the compromises are too many and the relationship disintegrates. The more you come from the subconscious, the faster the beautiful honeymoon will vanish.
The burning question is whether the honeymoon can be maintained. By rewriting negative programs, it absolutely can. Identify which programs don’t support you and reprogram them into positive wishes and desires. The honeymoon effect happens because we stopped playing subconscious programs in the first place.
If both parties recognize that they have adjustable behaviors, any criticisms are not personal. The criticism is applied to the behaviors derived from the program. Arguments can evolve into discussions and discussions can turn into action.